Words Are Indispensable

IN MY DAYS What happened?Yes! What happened?What happened to the days when women were respected? The days when people got into relationships for the purpose of fostering love and the view of bringing forth children in the institution of marriage? When sex was deemed sanctified and marriage was honorable upon the bed undefiled. What happened to the days when people were loved for whom they are, not whom we think they are.Oh those days! In my days, people fall in love for what they can gain. People "love" others for who they think they are or who they want them to be. Ladies are "loved" for their body, men... for their money. The word "love" is now used to denote "lust" and "affection" to mean "sexual gratification". In my days, the word "love" has become trite, such that we no longer know when it is used in its literal form or when it is used to connote "I like the way your body looks in that dress" or ...

 DO IT NOW!!!   Some recent happenings have left me thinking.If you want to identify a very brilliant,gorgeous/handsome,well loved,wonderful etc. person,read burial tributes. I'm gonna share an experience I had with you.Sometime last month,I saw a Facebook post saying that one of my childhood best friends was dead.You can imagine my shock when other people began to write similar RIP stuffs (about how much they loved her but God loves her most) and tagged her. Although we were no longer as close as before, I still cared about her but hadn't spoken to her in a while. I tried her line; it wasn't going through. I even chatted her up but no response. I was devastated. The only thing that was going through my mind was how she would never really know how much people(including those she might not have known) cared about her.Later that evening,I was able to get through to her and found out that she wasn't dead, but was VERY ILL. You can as well imagine my relief. What exactly ...

 These Clocks On The Wall   I've come to realize that while time itself was created by God, its perception was created by humanity and materialized by these clocks we've put on the wall You see,there is no place you would go in this whole world and not find a clock,and that's because we as society put them there to remind you. You see,society says you should brush your teeth for two minutes. Society says you should sleep for eight hours. Society says you should be done with school by twenty-two, have a career by twenty-five, a family by thirty, be successful by forty, and retire by sixty. You see,we've created this "one-size-fits-it-all" time light for life,thinking we could all wear the same clothes. And when we personally realize that they don't fit, we blame it all on ourselves acting like we've gained weight. Stop letting society's clock dictate when you show up. My time is different from your time,and just because you're not what soci...

The Nature of Men to Cheat? People: A man can love his wife and still cheat. It's the way men are wired. Me: Gerrarra here. You don't know nothing. What is the problem with you people? I don't claim to know anything about Love, but I know this one thing; When you love a person, faithfulness is a requirement. I don't seem to understand how Love and Cheating comfortably exist together. I don't also understand why people keep saying things like, "it is a man's nature to cheat". I refuse to believe that lie perpetuated by society to encourage infidelity and promiscuity amongst men. Maybe I'm old fashioned but I know that Love does not hurt. Love is not self-seeking. Love is kind. Love is compassionate. Love is not selfish. Love is not greedy. Love is pure. Love is true. The other day, I read a post where the writer said that there are no faithful men out there. I refuse to buy into that school of thought. I believe that there are faithful men. Me...

This Write up Broke Me My heart is broken and I will spill my grief here. Our society loves to play hush hush on everything. We pamper violence, abuse and the outright violation of the rights of vulnerable persons. And you know what else we do? We blame the devil for the sexual violence and abuse perpetrated against defenseless children. We pray and curse the predators who molest innocent children but forget to ask for justice. We create an environment where children live in fear because they have no one to turn to knowing they will be hushed/silenced. We stand in our religious gatherings and honour perpetrators of these crimes. We even enthrone them to high positions in the society, and accord them the respect they do not deserve. We make the classrooms and schools a living hell for young girls and boys who are abused by caretakers and teachers. We play along and we act like we do not see the fear in the eyes of these children. You know what else we do? We are quick to blame vi...

  Hey!Hold on a bit!!Who says men don't or shouldn't cry?Men, just like women, are human,flesh and blood.Man was first created by God,no doubt,to be the head of the family, to support, provide, love amongst other duties which I am sure does not include pretending to be a rock and refusing to show emotions.Even the Bible is full of crying men;Jeremiah, David,Jacob,Samuel etc.Oh and even Jesus wept,remember? Crying is one of the few human universals. It is a manifestation of strong emotions, not just sadness or grief but also extreme happiness. Crying is not a sign of weakness and why should it be morally wrong? Who gets hurt if a man cries? Crying for every little thing when you are an adult is probably a sign of mental distress, but in response to strong emotions is perfectly normal. The gender one belongs to is irrelevant; it is perfectly human to cry. We cause so much harm trying to bring up men who live in denial of their emotions and feelings. The effect of this is that ...

     Her First Love Judith was crazy,annoying, stubborn even weird but when it came to her love life,she was the most caring and loving partner anyone could ask for. They weren't two or three;they were uncountable, but she loved them all,although the possibility of loving some more than the others was there.Everywhere she went,she had one of them with her;she tried not to be with more than one at a time for obvious reasons. They all had their diverse duties;some had the duty of making her laugh when she had several reasons to cry.Some had the duty of taking her through painful nights. Some taught her refreshing things about life she never knew. Yet,some others were simply there because she loved them.She took very good care of them and they in turn,loved her immeasurably. She had a certain degree of faithfulness and respect for each of them, thus they were not threatened by each other's presence. If she was with any of them,she took him everywhere she went until the t...